Teaching Kids to Mind Their Manners


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Fact #1: Good manners are a good habit. “Behaving politely is a way of life, not just something you pull out when you’re at a wedding or fancy restaurant,” says Robin Thompson, founder of etiquette-network.com and the Robin Thompson Charm School in Pekin, Illinois. “It’s important to start as early as you can so manners become something a child does automatically, whether she is at home or away.”

Fact #2: Polite behavior will help your child’s social development. Kids who aren’t taught social graces from an early age are at a distinct disadvantage, say experts. An ill-mannered child is a turn-off to adults and kids alike; while children aren’t likely to be offended by a playmate who neglects to say “excuse me,” they don’t relish the company of a child who doesn’t know how to share or take turns. “You wouldn’t send a child off to preschool without a healthy snack,” says Sheryl Eberly, mother of three and author of 365 Manners Kids Should Know (Three Rivers Press, 2001). “Sending her into the world without knowing social graces is equally problematic.”

Fact #3: Learning manners is a lifelong education. “It won’t happen overnight, and you need to take it slowly,” says Eberly. Introducing one new social skill a month — teaching your 2-year-old to say “hello” when another person addresses him, for example, and rewarding him with praise when he does so — makes the process manageable for everyone.

Equally important is keeping your expectations in check. “There’s only so much a small child can do,” reminds Eberly. That same 2-year-old is not going to curtsy when ancient Aunt Mabel comes over for Sunday dinner. But she can greet her at the door and sit happily at the table for a limited period of time.

Fact #4: Your behavior counts. “That means that when you ask your partner to pass the salt, you do it with a ‘please’ and a ‘thank you,'” says Eberly. But it goes beyond that. Think about it this way: How would you feel if your child gave a fellow tricycler the finger when he cut her off on the sidewalk? If the thought doesn’t thrill you, keep your hands and fingers on the wheel while driving. Inappropriate expressions of anger are rude, too.

Fact #5: Consistency is important. Acquiring good manners takes lots of practice and reinforcement, so make sure that you, your partner, and your caregiver are encouraging (and discouraging) the same behaviors. If your husband lets your kid fling food during meals and you don’t, your child won’t know what’s expected of him.

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